No Kissing Allowed?

I figured I would want to entertain with a first blog right? So this blog is about romance , I've been conflicted as of late to what this elusive being is to us. In a culture that is completely bogged down sexual deviancy and where you turn on the television to find that women are half dressed, how does one stay pure. And a bigger question, what is purity, how do we define it? Well, I would argue that is freedom from this sexual perversion of our minds. Unfortunately, our culture is on a mission to tear down purity, I think the greatest example of this distortion our culture has provided can be found in a simple question: How many of us has had our first kiss? I'd argue that it is about 90% of us, how many of those people do you still know? Or even have romantic feelings for. Someday, most of us are going to get married, how amazing would it be if we saved that first kiss with our significant other for our actual wedding day? I would imagine it would be really special, if you've kissed don't get down on yourself because you can pull it off and it will still be amazing. But as a future spouse to someone else, ask yourself, would my future husband/wife prefer that I kissed 3 guys/girls or 12. We know the obvious answer I think. I'm going to tell you right now, every person you kissed before you met the person you were meant to be with is going to hurt your significant other, I can almost guarantee it. So here my message for the guys and gals:

Guys: I know we like to kiss girls, it's our nature. But think of it this way, would you appreciate it if your future wife was out kissing a bunch of other guys right now. No way! Those lips are supposed to be mine right?! Well that's exactly the attitude you should take before considering kissing what could potentially be another mans wife. We don't consider it adultery since we're in a relationship with the girl, it must be ok right? Wrong! I mean if getting caught looking lustfully at another woman before your married is a sin, then surely wouldn't kissing a girl you don't know to be your wife one? I don't know for sure, but I would think so. Christ wouldn't want His bride stained by some guy making out with her before He was allowed to take her right? In this way, we should also treat our sisters in Christ as magnificently pure women that we should be obligated to protect until God comes and blesses us with a wife that was also protected for our sake. Don't ruin it for their husbands by staining them!

Girls: I know most guys want to kiss you, because you're attractive. However, your lips are more precious than you could ever know and your purity is of the utmost importance. I liken it to this, imagine yourself in a beautiful white dress, looking heavenly and beautiful and standing under a bath tub faucet, every time you give a little piece of yourself sexually, through a kiss or whatever, you twist that faucet on and out comes mud in essence making you dirty, it's similarly applicable to guys, but we don't look nice in dresses so it doesn't work as well. Well imagine that dress as being your wedding dress and that when you present yourself to your husband what do you want to present to him? A beautiful woman in a marvelous white dress, or in a dress that's been tarnished or dirty. Daughters of God, grace be upon you because I know many of you have stumbled and God's grace will rain upon you, no doubt, and you will be beautiful and cherished by your husbands, but consider yourself as the most precious gift you can ever give to him because you are and as that gift that we are to each other, we should desire to keep ourselves pure for each other. 

I don't want anyone to feel condemned or bad because of anything I said, I'm hoping you all know that I say this with love. Guys and girls it's time to take God out of His box and start trusting Him with every aspect of our life, including our romantic life, and trust that He is big to bring us someone so amazingly perfect it will blow your mind. Have faith in Him! When has God EVER let you down? 

Grace To You

Verse: Ephesians 5:3 "But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people

Hebrews 13:4 "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and sexually immoral"

And I welcome all disagreements and questions :-)